In a misyar marriage, the woman waives some of her rights under a normal Islamic marriage contract because she is married to a man.
As women get older, it can become increasingly difficult for them to marry. Choosing Misyar allows men to have physical satisfaction without worrying about finances or family responsibilities.
Also, a woman here chooses a husband who isn’t capable of providing her with the essentials of marriage – such as taking care of the household and spending time with her. It would be preferable for her to marry such a man rather than remain unmarried.
It has gained popularity in the Saudi Arabia, because it legitimizes sexual relations outside of the framework of marriage, considering that extramarital and premarital sex is considered a cardinal sin in the kingdom. It is becoming increasingly prevalent in Saudi Arabian society to marry no-strings marriages of convenience called misyar.
A misyar allows couples to live separately while still having sexual relations. This marriage still offers a better alternative than nothing, especially for spinsters, divorcees, and widows who have lost most of their rights to this marriage.
By having a couple of nights of fun in secret, at a discount, and in secret, men are able to have a legal relationship.
Many factors contribute to the popularity of misyar, including the dowry, a number of dinners and parties, decorating a villa or flat, and the honeymoon. Several hundred thousand riyals could be spent on all of this by the groom. Misyar is a great resource for people who lack money.
The use of modern technology, friendly apps and websites, and furnished apartments has enabled many misyar wives in cities like Riyadh and Jeddah to sign multiple contracts. In this group, the women believe that because misyar husbands don’t disclose their relationships to their wives, why should their misyar wives do the same?
There is a strong opposition to such practices among religious leaders.
Misyar marriage websites often reflect the immaturity and desperation of those seeking partners.
There has been a lot of debate about the legality of misyar marriage under Islamic interpretation. A public debate is also taking place between Muslims fundamentalists and social activists over its use, context, and social construct. The late Saudi supreme mufti, Sheikh Abdulaziz bin Baz, issued a fatwa (religious edict) in favor of Misyar, which eventually legalized the practice. Iran’s Nikah e Muta’h (temporary marriage) and Egypt’s Urfi Nikah (unofficial marriage) are based on the same idea.
Misyar marriage is considered an insult to both men and women, as well as a punishment for women trafficking, by the Egyptian Centre for Women’s Rights. There are, however, different opinions among clergy members and Muslim Scholars(Ulema).
A Qatari-Egyptian scholar named Yusuf al-Qaradawi quotes:
“Regardless of how it is described, misyar should be seen as a form of legal relationship between a man and a woman. To clarify the above statement, let me explain. Despite this, I must clarify that I am not an advocate of misyar marriage. It is true that such marriages are socially unacceptable, but there exists a huge difference between Islamic law and social acceptance.”
As per Islamic law, misyar marriage is right, but it compromises some values, says Sheikh Ahmad al-Kubaisi. The high number of spinsters in Arab countries can also be reduced through misyar, according to Al-Kubaisi.
As a major difference between a conventional Islamic marriage and Misyar, women in Misyar marriages surrender their right to support and housing voluntarily. Furthermore, there is nothing wrong with giving up one’s own rights.
How do you feel about misyar? In Saudi society, this issue is certainly confusing. All actions, including misyar, will be judged according to a Muslim’s motives and intentions.
We are in accordance with the Muslim scholars who do not see any irregularity in Misyar Marriage. As everyone knows that marriage is a social contract, so if a woman agrees for Misyar marriage by waiving some of her rights with her free consent, what is wrong within this? On the other hand, our society does not have any solution for such young widows, divorcees and spinsters.
If you want to solemnize Nikah e Misyar, you can contact us and talk about your problem. We assure you that we would suggest you a legal as well as Shara’i solution, as per your Fiqh.